Yoko Ono looked the other way when it came to John Lennon's lovers. John Lennon and May Pang, who was wife Yoko's secretary, had an affair . began to call her 'Mother' after their son Sean was born in October Julian actually has a decent relationship with Sean and even took many photos  Why John Lennon's son fears Yoko Ono and Paul McCartney are trying to. Julian Lennon has many reasons to be angry. New York-based Lennon "camp" , under the control of Yoko Ono, Lennon's widow and the mother of Sean. . But Julian doesn't make it sound all that promising a relationship.
We were calling each other every day.
Some days he would call me three or four times. He lived in LA, but that was fine. I was prepared to lose him, but it was better he came back. When I met John it seemed old-fashioned. Around a decade ago she was said to be dating Sam Havadtoy, an antiques dealer. Does she ever get lonely? I cherish moments of not having a guy around, but my work involves being with people, usually guys.
She grew up in a conservative aristocratic family in Tokyo. He very much wanted his daughter to live out his dream. She was sent to a school for musically gifted toddlers and learnt to play to concert performance level. She was the first female student to be accepted on the philosophy course at Gakushuin University, in Tokyo. Her mother told her to never marry and, if she did, to never have children.
So as a form of rebellion she married the composer Toshi Ichiyanagi. When the relationship ended she met the American art promoter Tony Cox. They married in and had a daughter, Kyoko. Cox, then a member of a Christian cult called The Walk, fled with his daughter to Los Angeles inenrolling her in school under an assumed name.
He feared Lennon and Ono would fight him for custody, and win. I remembered her as a little girl and I kept buying her small beautiful cashmere sweaters. It was a kidnapping and a very difficult situation.
She had so much love for her father who took care of her all that time, and he had said very clearly that if she searched me out she would never see him again. Is she close to them? She looks slightly pained, perhaps because her own upbringing was so lacking in love.
She was too busy with her own life. She was a painter. She was searching for something. Her style was very precise. Men have become terribly possessive. I find it much easier to get on with women. Whatever we fall out over I can always forgive women. Her childhood was privileged but isolated. She tells me that being pregnant felt very alien to her.
I just kept thinking that I had a tumour inside of me. I think it was written that I had. My daughter was such a beautiful baby, I fell in love with her the minute she was here.
The last thing he's thinking about is his older brother. When people come up to him in the street, blabbing about their love for his father, "because he spoke the truth", they meet with a polite reserve. Dad could talk about peace and love out loud to the world but he could never show it to the people who supposedly meant the most to him: How can you talk about peace and love and have a family in bits and pieces - no communication, adultery, divorce?
You can't do it, not if you're being true and honest with yourself. He sits casually smoking and smiling, distilling the essence of what it has meant all these years to be the outsider, burdened with expectations on the one hand, stripped of status on the other. He picks occasionally at the quicks of his fingernails, but his voice doesn't change much. It's the same unemphatic Northern threnody, attractive in its way, whatever his subject.
A careful civility veneers all his utterances about Yoko Ono. He calls her "a hardball, a very strong woman.
I admire her - she's a tough cookie - but I don't necessarily agree with her". He even suggests that she may have done him a favour by waiting 16 years before allowing him any money from the estate. After a long legal wrangle, he secured a further settlement from the estate inthe details of which he is forbidden to discuss.
Yoko Ono: "John's affair wasn't hurtful to me. I needed a rest. I needed space"
The last thing I wanted was a court battle because there's much more money on the estate side than my side. The slanderous remarks would have been horrific. There would not have been a private life for either Sean or me. I just wanted to resolve it, to get the hell out of there; a chapter in my life finished, over with. But maybe I can make them into a winning hand later. He's not after a sympathy vote, but what he found really sad was the lack of any personal mementoes, "seeing nothing offered to me at all, having to go out and buy back Dad's stuff with his money".
Paul once observed that John didn't really know how to be a dad. Does Lennon think it is fair to blame someone for being a poor father?
You have to be around. It's as simple as that. A few awkward meetings ensued, Julian always having to do the Atlantic hop. According to sentimental legend, just as father and son were getting to know each other, Lennon was shot. But Julian doesn't make it sound all that promising a relationship.
I probably knew him as much as I know you. That's about how warm it was. There were cuddles now and then but there was always an uneasy tension. I'm older, I understand more, I'll make it better now. I know bringing up a kid is tough, but I cannot understand how anyone - not just dad - can walk away from that. After the relationship broke up, I think I missed the child more than I missed his mother. Though still wan, he looks more interesting now, and the likeness to his father is disappearing.
After the success of his first album, Valotte, he hated the way the record industry tried to dish him up as the reincarnation of Lennon. It was like being a puppet, a pawn being shifted around.
To me, it was about the songwriting, the songs.
Yoko Ono: "John's affair wasn't hurtful to me. I needed a rest. I needed space" - Telegraph
But nobody wanted to hear that. They just wanted to see me and touch me and play with me and ask me questions about Dad. For many years, I went along with it. I was too nice. I did have that anger inside me. I did have that [his father's] laconic wit - but it's in its place.