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Nonetheless, there is no relationship between two human beings (same Expressing your love requires you having a keen understanding of. Are they experiencing true love or are the experience infatuation, lust, or even . It is a dedication to someone and your relationship with them. This opens up the door for you to experience them in a non-judgmental way, and you will discover new things you love about them, as they.
Questioning seems contrary to commitment. Even if you do so privately, inside your own mind—in the midst of a sleepless night, while jogging, or showering—it can feel like a serious betrayal. But you must—without freaking out, if possible. You might doubt the fact that the person you love loves you as much as they claim to. You might wonder if you can make it as a couple long-term. Especially in matters of the heart, none of us is all-knowing. Pangs of uncertainty can sprout up for no good reason, tickling your consciousness and begging for attention no matter how unjustified they may be.
On other occasions, your gut may respond to blatant signs of trouble, or to subtle but significant cues. However unpleasant the process may be, confronting uncertainty is the only way to return to a point of clarity. You may have reason to doubt your relationship, and you may not. You may choose to do the work to repair whatever aspects of your relationship are broken, or deem the situation a lost cause.
So listen yourself, but with the utmost caution. I've just read a little about what this means, and I think I am.
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I can't speak for all women, but I suspect that many if not most other women are also. A person who is demisexual needs to feel an emotional bond with someone before they can really be sexually attracted to them. I suspect that most women probably are, though not all are. And I think that usually, unless the person has some kind of disorder, where there is a real emotional bond, there is at least some respect.
You explained these issues very well and you gave very clear examples of the problem that occurs if lust comes first without developing into love. This view is different from my questioning if love and lust can coexist, which is the title of this article. However, your example is an important added consideration. Your point focuses on the male lusting after a woman. Could it result in the same scenario—in your opinion? Teresa 3 weeks ago I disagree that the feelings of lust have to come first.
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I feel that the exact opposite is the case. I have found that when someone lusts after someone without first developing respect for them, they simply use them and throw them away and never come to respect them.
Respect needs to come first, before anything sexual happens, for a real, healthy relationship. When guys say that they need to first have sex with a woman before they can consider having a serious romantic relationship with her, they're lying. They just want to have sex without any real relationship.
They're hoping that some woman will be lonely and desperate enough to give them what they want in the hopes of MAYBE getting some real love in return. Sorry if that sounds cynical, but that's what I think. You do make an interesting point, though, about there being a conflict between lust and respect.
I would agree that respect does prevent lust, but that is because lust actually indicates a lack of respect. Lust, in my opinion, is more than just strong feelings of sexual attraction. Lusting after someone means desiring someone sexually with the intent, or the desire, to use that person to fulfill one's own sexual desires, with no regard for that person's feelings, or how it affects the other person in any way.
Even if you begin with respect, before lust has developed, it is still possible to develop strong feelings of sexual attraction. I had developed a great deal of respect for my current boyfriend before the feelings of physical desire developed.
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I think the main problem with this article is the way lust is defined. Lust involves more than just strong feelings of sexual desire, it also involves a lack of respect, and seeing the other person as a mere sexual object. I've also had the experience of having someone lust after me. I made the mistake of giving in even though we never met in person and sex chatting with him online. After he had gotten what he wanted, he had no more use for me.
He stopped talking to me, unfriended me, and deleted all the virtual gifts that I had sent him. That's what happens when the person lusting gets what they want before they've developed any respect for the other person. They just use them and then throw them away like garbage.
I went into a lot of detail that should answer your question. Gelo Do you think the main source of Lust is Love? I find that idea interesting that love and lust become neutral. The way you explained it, it makes sense. Edy 14 months ago You just need to combine them!
Learn how to combine Love and Lust and Respect will come in time. They become good or evil when altered by our perception or situation. Just imagine a couple. They stay in the same house, they have fights, ups and downs, extreme situations, moments when they want to quit As time passes they grow to know each other better, they function better together, and they trust each other.
I would think your thoughts are a guiding light for those who struggle with these issues. Lennard Curvan 18 months ago I started reading this article about the three main teams love, lust and respect.
I think this is quite an interesting article. However somewhere down the line, my head started spinning from all the different thoughs. This is even though they are quite interesting. First I just wanted to say that in defining anything we sometimes come up with many answers. This is simply because the answers we have for any topic is answered based upon our triditional, cultural, religious, social or other wise background. When we meet someone we can have great love for that person, maybe even the other way around, great lust, maybe just respect, or even a mixture of all three.
I will not comment about what is wrong or right. I will just keep that to myself not being selfish. What we should realize is that our relationship is really based on an agreement that we will stay together for life. We are not perfect so for what ever reason if that didn't happen, try to do it right the next time. The love, lust, and respect you have the rest of your life to work on. You can perfect your combination by learning and cultivating new habits to make things better. The best thing in that situation is to see how you can better serve the other person.
In time, you both can grow and change for the better. You want more love. Learn how to be more loving and eventually it may come back to you. You want more respect, be always respectful and it will return back to you.
You want more mutual feelings lust as you will saycultivate that and you will eventually reap a great harvest. If all of those things don't work. Thank God for the patience, the longsuffering, the kindness and all his wonderful attributes you are learning from just trying to be a better person in your relationship.
Life is to short. Learn to be the best you you can be, for others. Eventually you will leave this world a better place. We all have to go sometime. Our habits don't just affect the person that is close to us.
We leave a little piece in the puzzle of life that affects the entire outcome of humanity for eternity. That's all that matters. She-Wolf 20 months ago My spouse and I have been together for at the time writing this 13 going on 14 years. We have times where we just do a quick kiss then go to bed then, there are times we are on each other still acting like a couple of horny teenagers.
Neither of us has really felt the need to get married not that we haven't talked about it. There is even another aspect to this Timetraveler2 2 years ago What you're discussing with regards to respect and lust is the old "Madonna" complex.
Once some men gain respect and admiration for a woman, they begin to view her much in the same way as they view their mothers. No normal man would ever dream of having sex with his own mother! It's probably more common than we realize. I've recently made the decision to commit to a woman whom I've been enjoying wonderful sex with, and it's almost like my physical desire for her has disappeared overnight. The stronger the feelings are in my chest, the lesser they are in my loins.
Cannot tell you how reassuring it is to have this article validate my experience. Isaac 4 years ago Lust alone ruins; Love respects; and respect may not always love, but it does at times and when that happens, adoration of the respected-lusted after individual takes root To keep things in perfect harmony, love must reign supreme in order to find lust and respect It's a great thought Your explanation of your three relationships makes something very clear that is important.
That is, the order of the development of the three things.